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Eastham Methodist Church

    ESSENTIALS

    A Food Pantry That Helps Residents Feel the Love

    Donations from residents and local businesses stock the shelves in Eastham

    By

    EASTHAM — The food pantry in Eastham has been around for 44 years — longer than any other on the Outer Cape, said Joan Lockhart, who manages it. Nestled behind the Eastham Methodist Church, the unassuming space holds a wealth of fresh produce, frozen meats, and packaged foods, and even some other essentials like jackets and toothbrushes.

    Joan Lockhart in front of the Eastham Food Pantry’s full shelves. “If you tell us you need food, we give you food,” she says. “We’re supportive of our families.”

    The pantry was founded in 1980 as the “Love Pantry” by Lois Langhans and Christine Austin, who wanted to provide food for their fellow parishioners, many of them women who struggled to pay for groceries while their husbands were out at sea, said Lockhart.

    Today, the pantry is open to all Eastham residents. It is now one of nine funded by the Lower Cape Outreach Council, a nonprofit created in 1984 — also by members of the Eastham Methodist Church.

    About 90 percent of the pantry’s stock comes from the Greater Boston Food Bank, Lockhart said. The rest comes from donations and food drives across the Outer Cape, including the Orleans Stop & Shop and Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church in Wellfleet. One anonymous donor, who Lockhart refers to as “Santa Claus,” donates $1,000 or more each year.

    The pantry also receives donations of food from local businesses, Lockhart says. The Friendly Fisherman donates leftover clam chowder and lobster stew when it closes for the winter, she says. Sam’s Deli, the Chocolate Cafe, and the Eastham Superette also help stock the pantry with surplus items.

    Donations of groceries and supplies can be dropped off in the vestibule of the church as well as at the Eastham library. Lockhart said she especially appreciates donations of toilet paper, toothpaste, and shampoo, which aren’t usually prioritized by the Lower Cape Outreach Council when it purchases stock from the Greater Boston Food Bank.

    The pantry has provided 41 families with Thanksgiving dinner this year, Lockhart said. Each family received a turkey, a box of produce plus stuffing, cranberries, and other fixings.

    EASTHAM

     Eastham Food Pantry

    Open Monday 4 to 6 p.m., Tuesday 10 a.m. to noon, and Thursday 2 to 4 p.m.
    United Methodist Church, 3200 Route 6
    508-240-0694

    Eastham Food Exchange
    A 24/7 cupboard, open to all.
    Chapel in the Pines, 220 Samoset Rd.
    617-888-3286

    Council on Aging
    Mobile food pantry: first Wednesday of every month; Brown Bag Friday: first Friday of every month; “Grab & Go” prepared meals: second and fourth Fridays of every month; meal delivery: every Tuesday and Thursday.
    1405 Nauset Rd.
    508-240-2327

    VIRTUAL MEETINGS

    Recovery Without Rooms

    How to find healing fellowship in a time of isolation

    By

    For the past eight years, John has made coffee, opened doors, and greeted people as they entered the Wellfleet First Congregational Church for the weekly Saturday night Alcoholics Anonymous meetings.

    Eight years sober himself, John said he owes his life to the meetings.

    “I was a total wreck when I came in, and since my life has been so wonderful,” he said. “I have to pinch myself sometimes; I had to give up one thing to get everything.”

    John, who would not give his last name because of AA anonymity rules, isn’t making coffee at the church anymore, and hasn’t for the past nine weeks, since the building was closed to gatherings.

    Covid-19 has put a unique strain on those recovering from substance abuse, who depend on support groups with others in recovery, often held in churches. Even with houses of worship now allowed to open again, following Gov. Charlie Baker’s May 18 announcement, AA meeting organizers worry that they will see many fewer faces when meetings resume.

    Liquor store clerks on the Outer Cape have anecdotally and not for attribution said that business has been booming during the pandemic this spring, almost with the same sales volume as a summer day, according to one store manager.

    “One of the biggest things with recovery is not isolating, and we are in a system of isolating,” John said.

    There were more than 200 12-step meetings taking place on Cape Cod every week before Covid-19 struck. Most of them have transitioned to virtual meetings, according to Jim Z., the Wellfleet Congregational Church group treasurer.

    It is hard to replicate the warmth of a real meeting in an online format.

    “Social camaraderie and so forth has historically been such a strong part of the AA meetings,” Jim said.

    Especially for those starting out, he explained, having a place where people expect you to be is integral to recovery.

    Newcomers are often given responsibilities like coffee making to motivate them to attend. If they decide not to show up, they are not only letting themselves down but they’re letting everyone else in the group down, too.

    Newcomers meet sponsors at these meetings, who then become important mentors in their new lives, said Paul Dart, president of the board of Pause A While, a recovery meeting place at 26 Giddiah Hill in Orleans, which hosts 30 meetings a week.

    New friends are crucial, since many alcoholics and drug addicts find themselves isolated or estranged from everyone besides their drinking or drugging buddies, Dart said.

    “If you change playgrounds, you must change playmates,” he said. “So having coffee with that newcomer is really important. Then they develop a new circle of friends. It’s a really big part of recovery.”

    Going virtual has not been a problem for some. In Provincetown — where 23 meetings take place each week, according to the Cape Cod Intergroup — 60 to 70 people could attend one of the 13 weekly meetings at the Provincetown Methodist Church. About that same number are showing up on the Zoom calls, according to meeting coordinator Sarah L. A Friday-night women’s meeting at the AIDS Support Group of Cape Cod facility in Provincetown has also held its attendance well since it went virtual, she added.

    “Maybe it’s different for people who are brand new, but I really don’t think it’s changed at all,” she said.

    Virtual meetings have some advantages. You can now attend any meeting anywhere, without getting into a car, Dart said.

    But technology is not for everyone. This became clear in early March, when Pause A While stumbled upon a low-tech work-around to Zoom and in-person meetings: conference calls. All you need to do is dial a telephone number off the Pause A While website at the time of the meetings, Dart said.

    Word of the call-in 12-step meetings spread throughout the country, including to Alaska and Hawaii, Dart said. Now there are often over 100 people on a single call — with about 850 people calling in daily. Many of the voices are older, including some calling from nursing homes, Dart said.

    “We have one woman who has experienced tremendous death in her nursing home and she has been supported and lifted up,” Dart said. “Typically everyone yells out her name when she is on the phone.”

    Dart did not want to provide identifying details about this woman, except to say she is in an off-Cape nursing facility.

    With churches able to reopen, each meeting group is now faced with a decision about returning to in-person gatherings. On May 21, the Boston Globe reported that the desire to avoid freedom of religion lawsuits was a significant factor in Gov. Baker’s decision to reopen churches.

    “We don’t want to get sick,” Jim Z. said. “The whole organization is trying to heal from our substances. We are trying to recover from one problem, and don’t want to be spreading diseases in other ways.”

    To Find a Meeting, Virtual or Otherwise

    Current Status of AA Meetings in Churches

    Provincetown

    • Provincetown United Methodist: No.
    • Mary’s of the Harbor: Not until July 1.
    • Unitarian Universalist Meeting House: No.

    Truro

    • North Truro Christian Union Church (No response).

    Wellfleet

    • Our Lady of Lourdes: Opening doors May 30 for services and meetings with 40 percent capacity.
    • First Congregational: No.
    • Wellfleet United Methodist. No.

    Eastham

    • Eastham United Methodist. No.
    • Chapel in the Pines: No decision for two weeks.

    OP-ED

    Hope in the Time of Covid-19

    With a dysfunctional state, can we ‘feel to be a cog in something turning’?

    By

    EASTHAM — My grandfather was a Congregational minister. I never met him. He died of pneumonia in the 1920s. Two stories I heard growing up about Robert Hillis Goldsmith: in 1913 he integrated his Little Rock, Ark., church, welcoming traveling “Negro” salesmen in. For this, the family, including my infant mother, were “driven out of town on a rail.”

    The other story was the book he wrote: A League to Enforce Peace, about the proposed League of Nations, precursor to the United Nations, was published in 1917. I think about him, and my mother, during Easter season.

    My other grandparents, the ones with roots in Eastham, were my dad’s parents. They moved the family smartly out of Providence, R.I., to Woonsocket to escape the terrifying Spanish flu epidemic of 1918. May be why I’m here.

    I, like much of my generation, grew up in a secular household. Mother and I went to church on Easter Sunday, to Eastham Methodist, or later, First Parish in Brewster. Other than some Sunday school and choir at the Chapel in the Pines, that was about it for churchgoing.

    I learned about “sacred relations” with the land from my dad, though not from his words. He taught me to be quiet and listen to the natural world walking in the woods, fishing from a rowboat, searching the flats for quahogs. I absorbed early how deeply my nature is linked to that of the natural world.

    With the social, psycho-spiritual, and drug-evoked effects of the 1960s and ’70s came a turn on my path to counting myself as a person of faith, which may be how I find hope for our human family right now. Beloved community arose out of the civil rights movement. Dancing for peace came from close encounters with a Sufi community north of San Francisco.

    Inspired by the Indian rights movement, some of us banded together, lived simply, close to the land, as we learned about the American genocide of indigenous people. Along with our right reverend rock ’n’ roll pastors, many of us chose to incorporate the idea that “We are stardust/ Billion year old carbon/ We are golden/ Caught in the devil’s bargain/ And we’ve got to get ourselves back to the garden.”

    But which garden is that again? The one where sex is the sin for which we need forgiveness? And women are to blame? Maybe not.

    “And I feel to be a cog in something turning.”

    Today, Bob Dylan writes to us evoking the Deep State in his compelling new 16-minute-long talking blues: “Murder Most Foul.” The media impart stories of a dysfunctional state. How do we make sense of our situation?

    Where is hope to be found in these suddenly radically changed and perilous moments of our lives, of this civilization? Is my nontraditional, polydoxy faith able to serve as antidote for suspicious, divisive, and worried feelings among us?

    What we see nationwide right now is workers organizing, together addressing safety and justice for each other in ways we’ve not seen in this country perhaps ever. People are attending to something that feels soundly human — empathy and love, and how to grow it in word and deed.

    In my Nauset UU Fellowship, hope is found in the bluebirds at the bird feeders, in ways to serve each other, and in grieving together about family, friends, and others in peril, in New York and elsewhere, via Zoom and phone.

    With our human capacity for caring, for loving each other so much that it hurts, perhaps relationships maintained or redeveloped via phone and internet have become our best choice for now.

    The ability to grieve our losses with others, not to become numb to possibilities of a different society crafted on the other side of all this — that is where hope and faith reside in me these early weeks of spring.

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